• November 15, 2016 /  Miscelleaneous

    In recent years, it’s become simpler and easier for seniors to browse the internet.How Seniors Can Stay Safe on the Internet According to the Pew Research Center, approximately 59% of seniors use the internet regularly. It’s a convenient way to keep in touch with family and friends, utilize it for banking and personal bills, and to find useful information such as the article you’re reading now. In fact, the Gerontological Society of America found that using the internet can actually reduce depression in seniors, connecting them to others in very positive ways.

    Unfortunately, the internet is not always a safe place to be. There are 4 basic guidelines to follow that will help protect you!

    Basic Security

    Your installed operating systems, internet browser, and user software must be continually updated to not only ensure that programs function properly but also as a safeguard against possible threats. Computers should also have recommended anti-virus, anti-malware, and anti-spyware software installed as a safety precaution. Households using wireless technology or external hard drives should also implement password options for their software.

    Email

    Email and other online accounts must be secured with strong passwords. Creating phrases that combine upper and lowercase letters in addition to numbers and symbols enhance security by making them virtually impossible to hack. That means you don’t want a password composed of your pet’s name and your birth year! It’s also very helpful to use different passwords for different accounts. To help remember your passwords, write them down and store them somewhere secure.

    Fraud Alerts

    Beware of emails or messages that claim you won a contest or a lottery in which you never entered. Other scams include unscrupulous individuals claiming to be a relative in need of money or someone requesting assistance with fund transfers. Be on the lookout for obviously misspelled words and grammatical errors that often indicate scammers from a foreign country.

    Other signs of fraud include urgent messages from seemingly authentic institutions or organizations. Never supply anyone with financial information, passwords, names, addresses, social security numbers or other personal information. If you’ve been contacted by someone that looks like they work at your bank, for example, but they’re asking for your social security number, beware! An official organization will already have this information and would not need to ask for it.

    As a rule of thumb, avoid opening emails from addresses you don’t recognize and people you don’t know personally.

    Online Purchases

    While looking to book a trip or make a purchase, you may stumble across a deal that seems too good to be true. It probably is. Buying and selling online is a great way to shop, especially if you have physical limitations. Just make sure you choose a reputable vendor. Ask your friends and family where they shop online, or if they know of a certain website you’re considering using. You can also do an internet search for online reviews from others.

    When you make transactions online and use personal information that requires the transfer of funds, make sure that the site has indications that it is secure. Legitimate sites commonly feature security emblems and privacy notices. Many have https addresses that include a closed padlock next to the site address. Never enter personal information on pop-up windows.

    The internet is a useful resource for seniors, but you need to be equipped with the right knowledge beforehand. Apply these principles and you can enjoy your time online while also staying safe!

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  • October 31, 2016 /  Basics

    4 Ways to Stay Active as a SeniorIt’s important for people of all ages to get regular physical activity. Countless studies have shown its positive effects on physical, mental, and emotional health. However, as you age, you might face concerns about injury. You might also wonder what sorts of activities are feasible for you. But staying fit doesn’t need to mean hours at the gym lifting weights! The important thing is to be moving around as much as possible, and to reduce the time you’re sitting.

    A study in 2012 found that those who sat for more than 8 hours a day increase their chances of developing type 2 diabetes by almost 90%! At the same time, a study published in the American Journal of Preventative Medicine showed that those who simply fidgeted while sitting reduced their risk of all-cause mortality. Clearly, it takes less effort than you’d think to stay healthy. The key is to put the effort in and find what works for you! Remember to ask your doctor before embarking on any fitness regime.

    Here are four ways that you can stay active!

    Choose Active Hobbies

    A fun and simple way to stay active is by pursuing specific hobbies. You’ll want to choose ones that get you moving – even if it’s just in your backyard! Gardening is a great choice that many seniors like. Moving from kneeling, sitting, and standing is important for your bones and muscles to keep their strength. Working with your hands promotes brain and physical coordination.

    The best part is, you can make it as comfortable as you like, and go at your own pace. You can buy a kneeling pad to ease some pressure off your knees. You can take a rest as often as you like. Even 5 minutes is great for you! The fresh air will do wonders for your mood as well.

    Other options include knitting, needlework, painting, and scrapbooking. When you think of fitness, these might not come to mind. But the fact is that you’re moving your body, no matter how small the movements are, while engaging the brain. Open your mind to the possibilities!

    Gentle, Low-Risk Exercise

    Yoga, Pilates, Tai chi, and swimming are popular among seniors. They carry little risk of serious injury, and are easy to do in groups, with friends, or at home alone. They’re an excellent option for those who are new to exercise or have concerns about safety.

    • Yoga includes breath control, simple meditation, and the adoption of specific bodily postures, and is widely practiced for health and relaxation.
    • Pilates is designed to improve physical strength, flexibility, and posture. It also enhances mental awareness.
    • Tai chi is actually a martial art, however it focuses on alleviating stress and anxiety through slow and carefully controlled movements. Tai chi is often practiced in an outdoor setting, and can be quite invigorating!
    • Swimming is a low-impact exercise, with little risk of injury. It’s gentle on your joints while improving muscle tone.

    Use a Buddy System

    Choose a friend or family member to be your buddy and go on walks or other activities with you. It could be your neighbor, your best friend, or even your spouse.  You hold each other accountable, and it’s easier to stay committed that way. They’ll provide you with companionship and encouragement. In turn, you’ll do the same for them.

    Perhaps you can arrange to go on monthly hikes. If possible, it’s highly beneficial to find someone to walk with on a daily basis. Your buddy can even join you in your active hobbies, as discussed above. You can garden or knit together, for example, while enjoying each other’s company. You don’t need to do it alone!

    Senior Group Fitness Classes

    Group classes are like the buddy system, except on a larger scale! They bring a lot of fun and excitement to what might otherwise be considered tedious.  You might be surprised at how many there are specifically for seniors!

    These classes can be found in health clubs, local gyms, recreation departments, YMCAs, community wellness programs, and more. They can utilize anything from basic exercises using handheld weights, to yoga, to cardio. Silver Sneakers (https://www.silversneakers.com) is a popular program, and that’s provided at no cost! AARP and the ICAA have also teamed up to provide a service that’ll help you search for the right program: http://www.icaa.cc/facilitylocator/facilitylocator.asp

    Whatever you choose, the point is to be proactive about your fitness level. Only you and your doctor can decide what type is right for you. However, at any stage in your life there are things you can do to stay healthy and active!

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  • Many of us have heard of or even experienced a family conflict at the bedside of a very sick loved one. Maybe you have read stories in the news about family members disagreeing about whether to continue Mom’s aggressive care or to let her have a natural ending without medical intervention. Neither side of the argument might be wrong, but the big question is: “What would Mom have wanted?”

    Such conflicts may be more easily managed or even minimized with a little planning and conversation ahead of time. In fact, according to a survey conducted by The Conversation Project, more than 90% of 2,073 Americans aged 18+ believe that having a conversation on end-of-life matters with loved ones is important. But only around 30% have actually done so.

    Discussing options, decisions, and wishes about end-of-life care can make a big difference during crises. The benefits to expressing wishes about end-of-life care include:

    • Giving loved ones a chance to understand important end-of-life care wishes for the future whether it is related to a progressive illness or older age
    • Removing the burden from caregivers and loved ones, who might not agree with one another when making certain end-of-life care decisions
    • Helping doctors and family members make vital healthcare decisions if a dying loved one becomes unable to make decisions for him or herself

    By having an end-of-life care conversation, you can establish comfort and trust with those in charge of your care. It may offer you and your loved ones more peace of mind than you might expect.

    Why It’s Important

    In a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, 126 participants—including 48 dialysis patients, 40 people with HIV, and 38 patients in long-term care facilities—answered a series of in-depth, open-ended questions about quality end-of-life care.

    Survey answers were analyzed and organized into the following 5 main categories representing what study participants cared about most:

    • Receiving adequate pain and symptom management
    • Avoiding inappropriate prolongation of dying
    • Achieving a sense of control
    • Relieving burden for caregivers, family members, and others
    • Strengthening relationships with loved ones

    How would you answer the question as to what quality end-of-life care is? What would matter most to you? It can help to jot some of your thoughts down.

    Having A Conversation with Loved Ones

    If you or your loved one is advanced in age or is managing a chronic, life-threatening or serious illness that will worsen over time, having on open and honest dialogue with loved ones, caregivers and family members is a good way to ensure that end-of-life wishes are known. Of course it can be difficult to discuss this topic—your loved ones may not want to face the sensitive topic of the uncertain future. Still, it’s important to talk about it.

    There is no right or wrong way to have the discussion—and there is never a wrong time to bring it up, as long as it’s done ahead of a crisis. Here are a few helpful tips to keep in mind:

    • Take the time to think about what’s important to you—don’t assume that loved ones will know exactly what you want. What are your thoughts on the type of medical care you would like to receive and the extent of life-saving efforts you would wish for (e.g., CPR, artificial breathing, artificial feeding, full life-support)?
    • Discuss your end-of-life concerns with the healthcare team to learn more about your options. If you are managing a condition, ask: How long will the end-of-life journey be? How much pain and suffering will there be? How will the condition affect your family?
    • Communicate your wishes to your family. Your loved ones may disagree about certain options but that’s okay. You may need several talks. It’s important to start the discussion before a crisis occurs
    • Ask yourself: What has to be done to get personal affairs in order (e.g., finances, home)? Do the wishes need to be put in writing, is a living will needed?
    • Think about who you would want to help you make decisions about your care, in the case that you are not able to do so yourself

    Remember that making end-of-life care decisions may be easier for you and your family with a little preparation and communication. So take the time now to ensure that your last wishes are known and that your quality of life during those moments will be supported.

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  • September 27, 2016 /  Miscelleaneous

    Keep Your Positivity When Confronting Driving IssuesDespite many people’s assumptions, growing older doesn’t mean that you’re no longer able to drive safely. However, at a certain point it’s a subject you’ll need to think about. There are several questions you should pose to yourself. Let’s go over them so that you can prepare for the future while easing your mind about this important subject.

    How important is driving to you? First and foremost, you need to assess whether or not this is a big deal for you. Many seniors don’t care to drive very often, for a multitude of reasons, and so aren’t too concerned about the day they’ll need to give it up completely. It’s more common, though, that the thought of being unable to drive oneself around is distressing to some degree. This can be seen as one of the last vestiges of one’s independence. Without the ability to drive, you become more dependent on others. By examining your feelings, you can begin to emotionally and mentally prepare for this.

    If you were unable to drive anymore, what would be your plan? Another crucial step in allaying your fears is having a plan. It’s helpful to include your family in this discussion. Very likely, they’ll play a part in helping you get around. They can also assist you in finding transportation services. You might be surprised at the variety of choices available to you. Here are just a couple options.

    Even before you reach the point of being unable to drive, you might enjoy taking advantage of errand services. Someone can be hired, whether independently or through an agency, to pick you up and take you to places like the doctor and the grocery store. They can use your car or their own. This is a really convenient and often quite affordable option. They can be hired for regular events or simply as things arise. It’s also a good way to ease into a life of less driving.

    A popular service is paratransit. Public transit, non-profit aging organizations such as Seniors First (see the resource page for contact information), and private agencies provide door-to-door or curb-to-curb transportation using mini-buses or small vans (vehicles for less than 25 passengers). Paratransit service often requires users to make advanced reservations but still offers a degree of flexibility and personalization in scheduling. Curb-to-curb service provides for passenger pick up and delivery at the curb or roadside; door-to-door service offers a higher level of assistance by picking up passengers at the door of their homes and delivering them to the doors of their destinations. Paratransit and van services offer reduced fares for older adults and persons with disabilities, and some providers may operate on a donation basis.

    If your adult children are going to be helping you out, then developing a schedule is a must. Open communication will prevent misunderstandings. Your family will have their own daily concerns: work, time with their spouses and children, and certain responsibilities. It will take coordination to make it work. Most seniors end up using a combination of outside services and family help.

    What issues will affect your ability to drive independently? With age comes medical issues, many of which will greatly affect your driving skills. You have to be honest with yourself. Do you have any eye or hearing problems? It’s dangerous to ignore the possibility that these are hindering your safe driving. Cataracts, hearing loss, and reduced reflex times should be taken into account. Talk to your doctor openly and honestly. They’ll help you determine what your best course of action is.

    Addressing the possibility of losing your ability to drive is understandably difficult. With emotional and practical support from family and friends, you can successfully accept this eventuality, while focusing on what you can do in the here and now. A positive attitude will go a long way!

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  • September 14, 2016 /  Miscelleaneous

    Dating In Your Golden Years: How to Address Common ConcernsThe realm of dating and romantic relationships can be a tricky one for those in their golden years. If you’re single or widowed, you may have considered the prospect of dating but feel unsure for a number of reasons. Here are some questions you might ask yourself:

    • Are romantic relationships important to me as I grow older? Why or why not?
    • Who do I currently turn to for social support? Is it enough?
    • If not, what can I do to improve that? How do I strengthen my current relationships?
    • If I’m widowed, how can I address the issue of dating with my children?

    In this post, we’ll consider two common issues facing seniors who want to date: the concerns of their adult children, and how to cope with the complications of senior dating.

    Addressing Your Children’s Concerns

    In a survey conducted by the Home Instead Senior Care® network, only 28% of adult children surveyed would be comfortable talking with a parent about sex if the parent became single. Approximately 39% would be comfortable talking about dating.  This doesn’t need to be a source of contention or awkwardness, however.

    As their parents age, many adult children can be resistant to any romance in their parent’s lives. Consider why they might struggle with this idea. For example, your children probably grew up viewing you and your husband/wife as a team that made their lives complete and happy. Seeing you alone can be difficult for them. In addition, they might see your desire to date as a betrayal of their other parent.

    Oftentimes they’re resistant to the concept because they want to protect you. Perhaps you were extremely heartbroken when you divorced or when your spouse passed on. One of the worst things for children to experience is seeing their parents devastated. It is only natural that they want to prevent this from happening again.

    Don’t be afraid to talk candidly with them. Acknowledge their concerns, but remind them that you’re an adult who is allowed to make your own decisions. They’ll likely appreciate that you understand their feelings, which will help them worry less.

    The Difficulties of a New Relationship – and How to Face Them

    Even if you have a strong desire to form new relationships, you might think, “I’m too old for this!” You’re not alone, though. Others are going through the same thought processes. And the people you’re looking for will understand what it means to be a senior interested in dating. You already have that in common! Camaraderie is important to a happy life, and having a romantic partner who knows the same struggles can bring you a lot of peace.

    Remember, you don’t need to go out and immediately find someone to remarry. Many senior daters would be quite happy to have someone to go to restaurants with, and have companionship when they want it, but are satisfied to keep their lives just as they are. You set the parameters of what you really want.

    Creating strong social support is the first step, and an important part of your life, whether it leads to romance or not. Get out of the house, make new friends, and try new things to build your confidence. You never know what sort of joy you might feel when you end up finding a new hobby!

    Your age and that of a potential partner plays an important role. If you have health issues that could affect the relationship, then be honest about it. It’s natural for health to deteriorate as we age, and they’ll understand that. Likely they have some health concerns themselves! You can both agree to focus on the positive and enjoy getting to know your new companion.

    Practical matters do need to be considered over time. If things get serious, you should discuss with them their feelings about facing upcoming challenges together. Start the conversation early. Who will care for both of you when you can no longer do so yourself? Where will you live? By planning ahead, you greatly increase your chances of happiness and satisfaction.

    Senior dating can be a wonderful thing for many people. It helps them remember that despite age and health problems, they’re still here and there’s plenty of life to enjoy yet! Don’t be afraid to consider the possibility.

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  • September 1, 2016 /  Basics

    How to Face Health Issues with PositivityWhile changes that occur with age may prevent your life from being what it was in your younger years, there’s a lot you can do to improve your health and longevity and reduce your risk for physical and mental disability as you get older.

    So how do you give yourself the best possible chance for a long, healthy life? Although you aren’t able to control every factor that affects health as you age, many are in your hands. Some keys to living a long, healthy life include:

    • Make healthful lifestyle choices—don’t smoke, eat right, practice good hygiene, and reduce stress in your life.
    • Have a positive outlook.
    • Stay as active as possible.
    • Take safety precautions.

    One of the most important things you can do to stay healthy is to maintain your sense of purpose by staying connected to people and things that matter to you. However, this isn’t always easy—especially in a society that all-too-often views older people as a burden.

    Try visiting your local senior center. Spend time with at least one person—a family member, friend, or neighbor—every day. Volunteer in your community, attend a local event, join a club or take up a new hobby. For example, Seniors First has a “Friendly Visitor” program where they match up volunteers with a home bound senior.   http://seniorsfirst.org/sf-programs/friendly-visitors/

    Stress can have an enormous impact on your health and your quality of life at any age—and even more so as you get older. As you age, you’re also more likely to experience emotional trauma associated with loss—the deaths of people close to you (friends, family members, spouse), your own health, and/or your independence. For many seniors, dealing with the loneliness caused by multiple losses can lead to a diminished investment in life—especially when combined with other issues, like financial concerns.

    Try these tips to help deal with difficult changes:

    • Focus on being thankful. Appreciate and enjoy your life.
    • Acknowledge your feelings and express them. Try writing in a journal.
    • Accept that some things are out of your control.
    • Try to keep your sense of humor!

    Seniors are at increased risk for depression. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, or unable to deal with stress, it’s important to reach out to family, friends, caregivers and health care providers.

    The risk for a number of medical conditions increases with age. In fact, some studies show that the average person 75 years of age has three chronic medical problems—ranging from minor to serious. If you have concerns or questions about your health, talk to your doctor.

    At this point in your life, it’s more important than ever to eat healthy. However, good nutrition is a challenge for many seniors. You may even experience changes in your sense of taste, which can affect your appetite. Slower digestion and metabolism can change how your body processes food. You may have difficulty shopping for, purchasing or preparing nutritious foods and meals.

    If you’re having trouble maintaining a healthy diet, talk to a family member or your doctor. Many communities have programs that provide healthy meals to seniors and take the guesswork out of the equation. Again, Seniors First offers the My Meals program that serves delicious hot meals. http://seniorsfirst.org/sf-programs/senior-nutrition/

    Exercise is an important part of a good health at every age; however, many older adults don’t get the recommended amounts of physical activity. Staying active can boost vitality, help maintain strength and flexibility, improve mental function, reduce your risk for health problems, and even help relieve chronic pain. Be sure to talk to your doctor, however, before beginning an exercise program.

    Find an activity you enjoy and begin slowly. Try to incorporate endurance activities, strengthening exercises, stretching and balancing exercises into your exercise program. Good choices include walking, swimming, biking, gardening, tai chi and exercise classes designed for seniors.

    One of the most important ways to stay healthy as you age is to seek the care of a geriatric physician, also called a geriatrician. Geriatric physicians are medical doctors who specialize in the diagnosis, treatment and prevention of disease and disability in older adults. They are specially trained in the aging process and provide comprehensive health care.

    With careful consideration, planning, and an open attitude to trying new things, you can stay positive in the face of health changes!

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  • August 15, 2016 /  Basics, Estate Planning Thoughts

    How to Make Wise Financial ChoicesAll aspects of planning for your future are important, but considering your financial choices should be one of your top priorities. Some put it off, thinking, “There’s still plenty of time.” However, it’s never too early to deliberate the options you have, make a plan, set goals, and be prepared.

    Taking the time to plan means that as the years go by, it’ll be easier to attain the lifestyle you imagine. Besides from having a budget for recreation and vacations, you’ll know where you stand with your health care options. You’ll have more wiggle room when it comes to your living situation, like needed home repairs to make your house more accessible. It’s less likely that you’ll need to rely heavily on the support of adult children or other family members.

    Here are a few questions to consider. These are a great starting point when looking ahead to your financial future.

    Do I need a financial planner? Financial advisors can help with savings and retirement planning. They use their years of experience to help you formulate a realistic strategy. Remember, if you find the thought of devising a financial plan overwhelming, a professional can relieve the pressure.

    Choose one who is ethical, professional, and shows that they’ll put your interests first. FDIC Community Affairs Specialist Ron Jauregui cautions, “Before you follow the advice of a supposed ‘expert’ who claims to have special credentials for advising seniors, research what that title may or may not mean and the advisor’s background.”

    Consulting with an advisor as well as discussing it with family will ensure that all your bases are covered. They can help you decide if you should have a power of attorney. This allows chosen people in your life to make financial and personal decisions for you. You control what aspects they can decide on.

    What are my future life goals? It’s not possible to plan wisely for the future unless you have an idea of what that future actually entails. What are your priorities as you age? Some might want the resources to travel and go on cruises. Others might like to move to another state in time, perhaps to be closer to family. Many simply want to remain reasonably independent as long as possible.

    Where are you now? Whether you’re still working, retired, or disabled, you can create a reasonable plan. Start by examining where you are at this moment. Make a list of your current expenses, your savings, and what you anticipate in the near future. If you’re still living independently in your own home, what’s the cost of that? Is it feasible to continue?

    Perhaps you’re receiving home care or have moved into a senior community. Contemplate those long-term expenses. If you’re retired, you might need to make changes now in order to secure your financial future successfully.

    Don’t forget to consider whether or not you’re eligible for government benefits. This can be very useful! Another consideration is credit card debt. Avoid the mistake of accruing interest charges by paying your balance in full. Be cautious about it.

    Many older ones choose to get reverse mortgages on their homes. The FDIC recommends that you need to be aware of its advantages and disadvantages. Luke W. Reynolds, Chief of the FDIC’s Outreach and Program Development Section, suggests, “Reverse mortgages allow homeowners age 62 or older to borrow against the equity in their homes without having to make monthly payments as long as they meet the terms of their loan agreement, such as staying current on property taxes. However, the money borrowed plus interest must eventually be repaid, usually when you or your heirs sell the house.”

    The ultimate key to making wise financial choices is careful consideration of all your options and knowledge of your unique circumstances. When you do this, you will absolutely find solutions that work for you.

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  • July 27, 2016 /  Difficult Conversations

    Facing the Difficult Subject of Living Choices Many families want to avoid talking about end-of-life matters. This is understandable, as it’s a weighty subject with a variety of emotions attached to it. Parents feel resistant to the idea that they are closer to facing this. Children and other relatives are saddened and worried by what the future holds for their loved one. However, it’s a conversation that can’t be sidestepped. Facing it head on with a frank attitude will help your family come to terms with it sooner.

    One of the first and most important items to address is living choices. You want to have clear plans before there’s a crisis. Consider whether your parent needs minimal assistance, or more intense care for issues like Alzheimer’s and dementia. Naturally, most older ones would still like to stay in their homes. But if they struggle with day-to-day activities and household duties, they might wonder how that will be possible. It’s important to assess the reality.

    Some questions that you will want to discuss with your parents would be, “What challenges do you face? Is it difficult to drive, walk up and down stairs, or access the bathroom? What’s the plan in an emergency?” It’s completely possible that they can continue to live at home. Mom or Dad might require part-time or full-time care to manage this. Sometimes simple changes or adaptations to the home can also make it feasible.

    For those who remain in their home, there’s an abundance of resources that will help. Options include home health aides, housekeeping, meal delivery service, and transportation services. Retirement communities offer many of these services while enabling residents to enjoy independent living.

    For some, living alone is no longer possible. Consider whether or not moving in with you is the right choice. It all depends on the circumstances. You might look into senior housing. Cost plays a primary role, so this needs to be factored in. You might not realize how much your parents value your input. Show care and empathy. Ask questions and genuinely listen to their answers. They absolutely need to be involved in the decision-making process if they’re going to be happy with the end result. Don’t rush this decision! Take your time and think wisely.

    Writing down a list of their wants and needs is helpful. What features would make them more comfortable? What’s essential to their care? This is valuable even if they continue to live at home or choose to live with family members. You’ll need to consider their financial and work situations, and the adjustments that might need to be made in those areas. Bringing on a part-time aide can maintain balance.

    This is a monumental time in both parent’s and children’s lives. Even with a well laid-out plan, nothing’s going to go perfectly. At times, emotions will run high. But through communication, empathy, and understanding, your family can make it through.

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  • July 12, 2016 /  Basics, Resources

    This is a continuing series using information from the booklet written by the National Institute on Aging working with the National Institutes of Health called: Talking with Your Doctor.Involving Your Family, and Additional Resources (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, NIH Publication No. 05-3452 August 2005. Reprinted April 2010.)

    How Others Can Help

    Many people find it beneficial to involve some of their friends or family in their medical care. The booklet points out that you may feel more confident if someone else is with you. If you choose to have someone come along to the doctor, they can aid you in remembering exactly what you wanted to discuss. They can also remember details that the doctor told you.

    Your caretakers can also bring up issues of their own. It’s easy for them to forget that caring for themselves is one of the most important things they can do. When they’re refreshed, you benefit as well. When they have a chance to speak with your doctor, they can express concerns and ask questions. They might wonder what to expect in the future, where they can find encouragement, or what practical ways they can care for themselves.

    After the appointment, you can discuss what the doctor said together. “They can remind you of the important points and help you come up with questions to ask next time,” says the booklet.

    Even if they don’t go to your actual appointment, they can still be a sounding board. The booklet says, “They can help you practice what you want to say to the doctor before the visit. […] And they can help you come up with questions to ask next time.” Many find it a challenge to express their thoughts to their doctors, so going over it with someone beforehand is very useful.

    It’s important, however, to remember that they’re only there to be of assistance. The visit is still between you and your doctor. You don’t want to allow them to take over. You could choose to talk with your doctor alone, and bring your friend or family member in later on in the visit.  It’s wise to discuss boundaries and expectations in advance.

    Additional Resources

    Your friends and family aren’t the only way to get support. There’s a multitude of information available to you. The booklet recommends: “the Internet, home medical guides, books and articles available at libraries, national organizations or associations, other institutes within the National Institutes of Health, and self-help groups.” Staying informed and educated is essential to a healthy, working relationship with your doctor.

    You can look into government programs that give aid for health care, prescriptions, food and utilities. Approaching a counselor for advice goes a long way towards maintaining your emotional and mental health. Maintain your friendships with those facing the challenges of aging as well.

    Taking an active role in your health care will improve your sense of control, even during tumultuous times. It’s easy to feel too helpless when your health deteriorates, but it’s possible to get involved and be productive. By inviting friends or family to help out as well, you build a support system that will assist you in the hard times.

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  • October 3, 2013 /  Special Needs

    Here is an article from Ken Covinsky on Kevinmd.com.

    smiling nurse I too, have found that not only are the nurses and doctors in an assisted living and skilled nursing have a lack of concise or correct information to the recent care of their patient in a hospital but also the patient’s primary care doctor (PCD) lacks the same information! Each time I have had my client come back to their respective communities, I have had to readdress the medications given them with their PCD as well.

    In advocating on my client’s behalf, I request the attending physician in the skilled nursing community work with my client’s PCD. The PCD usually does not want to “interfere” with the skilled nursing doctor but, as far as I am concerned, the PCD are the ones who know my client’s medical history the best and are most likely to better understand their needs.

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